I hate when women decide to tear one another down, with back handed comments. It makes me sad and honestly a little angry. I have a friend who was told by another woman "I hate that you have to work full time, I chose to do without some things for my family." Well now, I'm just not sure that was offered up for the edification of a sister. Maybe it's just me, but if you are uncertain of exactly what the situation is for that sister don't make assumptions or judgements.
I know for me I was very blessed to be able to work part time right up until my youngest son was most of the way through third grade. At which point my husband and I realized we were going to need additional funds. My husband was offered a job that paid substantially more and I could maintain the hours I had previously carried. However, said job meant many more hours away from home, as well as much more travel. So I chose to do without some things for my family. I chose to miss out on a few things so that my husband wouldn't miss out on many. I chose to work full time to keep my husband home more. I chose to work full time so that the last face my little people saw every night was their dad's. I don't desire for them to have more of me and less of him. That did not feel like the best solution for my family. With our current situation we are both home by 5 every evening. And though Rick does travel, it is not often and never for more than a week at a time. We are blessed in this life and many are much worse off.
I don't tell all this to say I am any better than anyone else. I tell all this to say, God has placed all of us in different situations at different times in our lives. It is not for us to lay judgements on one another. Ladies it's hard enough to be a mom in today's world without us throwing stones at one another. God may have lain on your heart to stay home with your kids. If he has, you better do it. But, be sure that He will not lead every mother in the same paths. And be supportive of whatever God is leading that family to. Don't assume they weren't willing to place their families first. Always think the best of one another. And remember God has an amazing way of humbling the proud. Isaiah 2:11 says the eyes of the arrogant will be humbled and human pride brought low; the Lord alone will be exalted in that day.
Be kind to one another & God bless and keep you, Ms. Jill
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and vice versa...I hate when 'working' women tell me, "you must just love staying at home, getting to lay around.". -.- grrrrrr. Like I do nothing. seriously.
So I feel it sister! I just roll it off the best I can and while I do wish that more moms could be home, I understand it's not always the case. Way to go or reminding those who need reminding!
Love ya Jill!
Absolutely sister! Judgement goes both ways! We need to building each other up instead of tearing down! Love you, you hard workin mom you!
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